Academy 6 - Desire 14 - Attraction Theory III
The female and male body
Hi girls, this will be the final part of this series of lectures in the module, so let’s get started!
Biology
As we’ve discussed, attraction is a combination of visual cues, behavioural factors and the sexuality modules you’re running your head.
Once these are activated, your body steps in and releases various chemicals and hormones that are based on the situation, which is why the same factors can cause different levels of attraction and arousal. As an extreme example, if you’re on the run from a sabre-tooth tiger no matter how appealing a cock may appear, you won’t be attracted to it as much as you would be if you were safely at home.
During their studies, students will become adept at knowing their own sexual systems and those of others. An incredibly useful skill that will improve the quality of your life and that of any partners who are lucky enough to cross your path.
Today I want to talk a little bit more on the visual stimulation side of things and investigate which parts are deeply buried in the human psyche and which parts are cultural trends.
Female
In women, bodily signs of fertility and health often correlate well with sexiness and traditional male desire.
Is there a difference between sexiness and being hot, compared to beauty? I would assume there is something to this. There are a lot of women who are beautiful, but that is not considered of high sex appeal.
At the same time, beauty is a part of what makes up the whole attraction package. Beauty can be found in the old as well as the young and moves outside the realms of visual cues. Movement can be a beautiful, skill as well. Hotness or pure sexiness, if that even exists, tends to be more about body proportions.
Hotness
Let’s start here, I’ll list things that are usually considered signs of hotness and then we’ll break them down.
Waist measurement
The waist-to-hip ratio
Breast size
Fat distribution in face
Fat distribution in thighs
Fat distribution in butt
Lack of extra fat in midsection:
Lack of love handles
Lack of tummy fat
Lack of internal abdominal fat
Lack of fat under chin
Lack of fat next to breasts
Lower back angle
Thick red lips
Enlarged pupils
Smooth and even-toned skin
Slight orange skin tone
Lack of body & facial hair
Lack of facial deformities
Lack of body deformities
I think most of these are fairly uncontroversial, one thing you may notice from this list is that they are all physical factors.
Hopefully, you know by now that sexual attractiveness is much more than purely physical things and someone can score perfectly on this list and still be seen as unattractive. This is because other factors are heavily weighted to the extent that the presence of these feminine hotness factors isn’t enough to compensate for their lack.
So with this in mind, we clearly need to add more things to the list. We want to avoid traditional beauty factors, which will come later, so what’s missing?
Well, if you look at the above list again, they can all be replicated on a doll! So we need to look at the ways women are in person and how they communicate sexuality. Let’s have another list!
Emphasising body hotness factors
Insinuating desire and/or readiness for sexual play
Coming off as innocent
Be seen as vulnerable
Displaying confidence in self
Embodying inner happiness
A teasing manner
Playfulness
Movement, body stance and gaze
Signs of sexual experience
These points take us from a static item to something a little more real. Each of these points can be done at differing levels, so let’s explore them a bit.
Emphasising the butt can be made with just a pair of tights, so even the act of wearing a tight piece of clothing can therefore provide more attractiveness points than whether the women has a full, round ass.
While the combination of both great proportions and emphasising them gives you the most, there is also the risk of getting minus points here. A girl in a yoga class where everyone wears tights is not going to stand out, a girl in a grocery store who is not in training clothes and seems to come from the gym, can be seen as anti-vulnerable.
A top that shows cleavage might add a lot of sexual points for insinuating and emphasising the breasts as if saying "Hey look at my assets and how good a mate I would be" but a top that has no cleavage instead shows off big, proportioned breasts can be even better since it will have the effect as the cleavage but be seen as more innocent.
Big red lips can be a sign of "I am so hot right now and I want to suck..." At the same time, it can also signal a lack of confidence, or being overly obvious. A high-status male, for example, a well-groomed guy with a sports car, might not be able to go with the "too easy" girl for reasons like these, at the same time status symbols like money might also be a direct signal that the person carries a lot of fear and shame, and are trying to "cock" themselves up to seem high status while not feeling they truly are, in which case the "easy target" look is a free ticket.
These things must also be considered in conjunction with the purely physical points we listed originally, a playful manner can come off as super sexy, yet at the same time a girl with too many overt signals of hotness can be a mismatch to that playfulness
All these signals are not a one-way street, you cannot leverage all of them in one given situation but if you seek to climb that attractive hill then you should master the subtlety and how to adapt to each situation, and to whomever you think you want to attract. Goth style can play perfectly with some and not so well with others. Sharing and understanding a style shows you belong to that group, which can signal value.
The interesting thing here is where you come into all this. You can change your body proportions with exercise, and clothing choices and you can learn to master elegance and sensuality.
You can also go with procedures that improve your skin, use proper skin care, eat plenty of vegetables to improve your skin tone, and use padding or even surgery to upgrade your proportions.
At the end of the day, as I think is becoming more clear, what you and others are attracted to is not just simple physical factors, it is much more complex and the things you can change are much bigger influences than the things you have little power to change. How you dress, move and interact are much more powerful factors than many realize.
Purely physical attraction is indeed very real, but it’s much more extremely powerful when combined with a look that matches it. The women you notice as hot, sexy and super attractive tend to not just have a good body and face but also combine that with their presentation.
It’s also important to remember that short-term attraction is not the same as long-term attraction, the stud you fuck after a night out on town is probably quite different from the husband you will do best to marry and make a life with.
The hottest of girls who lack personality, will not get the best of the best, at most they will get the celebrity popstar who matches their surface qualities but little else.
With this being said, it’s important to recognize that inside of you there is probably a desire to be that hot easy piece of ass AND the elegant helpless princess in the tower AND the sophisticated intelligent business women. You are all these parts wrapped into one. You are not a one-note human, no one truly is, even though some might come off like that.
I advise you all to embrace all these versions of you, especially when it is appropriate. Maybe the bimbo you can come forth at the beach house on hot summer days, or when you go party with your friends in the city.
In the academy, you get to explore many paths, and none of them define you totally. Let them enrich you and make you more complex and better at meeting your own sensual and sexual needs.
What about the men?
So that was the feminine side of things. What about the masculine?
I’m going to give you some pointers, but also leave some of this for your homework.
Masculine health correlates with the testosterone hormone. Proper levels of testosterone promote a low body fat % and increased muscle volume. This is why muscular men tend to be seen as hotter.
As men get less fit and their body fat increases, they accumulate fat around their midsection, and this tends to be a negative factor in their attraction to others. Fat in the midsection is also highly correlated with ageing, heart problems, diabetes, high blood pressure, stroke, cancer and dementia/Alzheimer's and it’s clear that the biology of males intends for them to have low body fat %.
Females are quite different in this regard. Females tend to always have low testosterone levels so their biology takes a different strategy than men in terms of fat. Females have much higher levels of estrogen and progesterone, and the higher levels a female has of these the hotter she tends to be (stress can actually dramatically decrease the production of progesterone and this can affect a woman’s attractiveness).
Females have a different kind of fat on their bodies, but only in certain places. Guess which? The lower part. Tighs, butt and hips. Females that have more fat in the feminine areas actually have less risk of getting heart problems, diabetes, stroke and so forth. Females that have fat in the male areas (i.e. around the midsection), have increased risks like just like men.
Masculine attractive traits which are less to do with the physical, are much more focused on their confidence and status.
Homework
As a sissy, especially one who is exploring the feminine you need to explore the masculine as well.
For your homework, watch videos on YouTube! First, find a music or modelling video with men that matches the physical criteria of low fat per cent and muscles. Then find another that matches high status (however you define it) and thirdly find a video where the trait is more beautiful in terms of protection, empathy and caring.
An easy way to think of it is the first video is about your one-night stand, the second is about experiences you dream of having and the third is about who you would marry.
Even if you believe that the masculine is not for you, consider this as an exercise that teaches you how to attract the partner of your dreams. Be it someone masculine or feminine since there are aspects of both in all of us and how can you act truly feminine if you have no understanding of the other side of the equation?
