Academy 11 - Potential 12 - Escort
Let’s get started ladies!
It’s time for your final career class and today we’re going to look at escorting.
The other two careers we talked about were online only and you were kept at a distance from your customers and I wanted to make sure I showcased something a little different and more personal as well.
What is it?
An escort is someone who provides their time to their client’s in return for money. Yes, this is a very broad definition and that’s how I wanted to start. It’s common to think of escorts as something akin to prostitutes but ones who don’t ply their trade on the street but that’s not correct.
At the high end, a professional escort is effectively a paid girlfriend for someone who wants something specific or needs someone to fill a role that they don’t have the time to find a more traditional partner.
Sex can definitely be part of the equation (and commonly will be) but reducing it down to purely sex would be doing it a grave disservice. Even if sex is part of it, most people would expect it to be something more like a date experience just one where they’re guaranteed the ending they want.
Pure sex with a focus on getting through as many people as possible is the goal of prostitution. As an escort, you want recurring customers (and not just for the more regular income flow) which means your focus is on more than getting them off.
Escort agencies exist, they’re not available everywhere but most large cities will have access to them but as we’ve seen with being a porn star you can simply rely on your own efforts to find customers.
Preparation & Equipment
If you have your own place then you have somewhere you can work from, even if you share a flat, you still have something, just make sure your flatmates are ok with you having people back.
If this isn’t an option, then it’s harder but not impossible. You can go to your date’s location/home or book a hotel.
The main thing with an escort is your appearance. You need to be “well turned out” or at the least, able to present yourself as you advertise. If you say that you’re professional and turn up in jeans and a t-shirt, then at the very least that’s a bad start!
Remember, the key is to give your date what they’re looking for, especially when it’s your first time with them. They’re paying you for your expertise and so they can have their fantasy and you should always keep that in mind. You’re providing a service and you need to make it the best one you can.
Getting started
The first thing you need to do is come up with a professional name (and no, “Gemma Suxalot” is not recommended). This will be purely for your escorting and helps to protect your identity. Think of it as your brand and another side to yourself.
Then you need to take pictures, ideally you will pay for a professional quality photoshoot and put a lot of effort into getting yourself looking like the image you want to portray beforehand. You don’t necessarily need to show your face in any you use to advertise yourself online, but you should have some taken showing your face so you have them for possible future needs.
You can always take your own pictures too but if you go this route, make sure they look ok before you use them! It’s like a businessman using a homemade business card, possible but you want to be sure it’s up to the standard required.
Consider what services you’re comfortable providing. BDSM? Full on dates? Specific kinks? There’s no need to have everything set in stone before you even begin, but it’s a good idea to start thinking along these lines because sometimes you’ll get asked if you provide X and knowing whether you do or not is better than making a gut decision when you’re surprised with the question.
If you’re going it alone, research escorts in your area. Go to Google (or any search engine) and put search for “escorts *my location*” and “trans escorts *my location*” and see what comes up. Usually you’ll find plenty of websites where you can register and advertise yourself. Then it’s just a matter of seeing who contacts you and taking it from there.
When you have a date, the key things to keep in mind are:
Be professional and provide you what you promised. So as an example use your own pictures, you’d be surprised how many people try to catfish in situations like this and hope that they can keep hold of someone even though they’re clearly not who they claimed to be. On a slightly different approach, things like timekeeping are very important. This isn’t a “date” for you, it’s a job.
ALWAYS get the money upfront. This avoids you having to give out freebies and also helps stop any potential awkwardness later on. Remember, job not date. You should have plenty of fun, but that’s not your main goal.
Keep in mind and stick to your boundaries, if he decides he wants more than you’re comfortable with then you don’t have to do it. Again, this is why you sort things like this out before your date, in the heat of the moment isn’t a good time for these kinds of decisions. You have the final so never be afraid to say no.
Stay safe. This means paying attention to your sexual health (regular STI checks, using protection etc), your general health (exercise, diet etc) and your mental health (having people you can talk to about this) as well as your physical safety during a date. If something feels unsafe, then walk away even if it means reimbursing the client.
Improving
Once you get comfortable with the basics, you can really start to spread your wings. As I mentioned earlier, the services you offer are really only limited by your imagination. Think of yourself as someone who fulfills people’s fantasies. This can be something as mundane as a perfect date followed by sex with a cheerleader to them living out their adult baby fantasies with you as their mother.
After a couple of dates, you’ll be much more familiar with how things go and well past the initial awkwardness and able to focus on putting your dates at ease and having a good time.
Downsides
Dating on a more professional basis can be very tiring, especially because you’re doing it for someone else’s benefit and you need to make sure you keep strong boundaries between it and other parts of your life.
You might be surprised at how easy it is when you’re camming or making porn to keep it completely separate from your non-work sexual/romantic activities but escorting involves a more emotional connection and even if it’s feigned to some degree, it’s still there. So you need to make sure it doesn’t impact the rest of your life.
As this will happen in person, safety is more of a concern too but the risks aren’t that much greater than hooking up with someone, as long as you’re sensible and aware, you can usually head off any problems before they can even start.
Homework
Do some research in your locale and see what is available. I’m not telling you to post an advert offering your service but just look and see what you can find online. Think about how you compare to them and even though you’re not really their target market, consider how effective their advert is.
I hope you’ve learnt something over the past few letters!
If you’re considreing a career as a sex worker, I hope I’ve given you some ideas on where to start and if you’re not, then I hope you’re much more aware of what’s involved with it.
Because of the stigma involved with sex work, education is a big and very important part of my job. Even if you’re not a sex worker (and odds are you’re not) then I’m sure you do benefit from those who are and their labour, even if all you do is watch pornography!
For those of you who are considering it as a career be it as a cam girl, a porn star, an escort or any other role, then I wish you all the luck in the world. Sex work is an amazing, terrifying, fulfilling, rewarding experience that nothing else can quite match and anyone who tries it has my undying admiration and respect.
Good luck girls!
